IF we were to look at ourselves as the starring role in the movie of our own lives and watch what we do from dawn to dusk I’m sure there’d be quite a few things we’d change. Would we root for that character? Would we laugh with, or at this person? Would we feel inspired or embarrassed that someone else could be witness to existing thoughts and actions?
We all tend to speed when driving but we all brake when we see a speed camera; for fear of getting caught. This is what we need to do for ourselves, constantly monitor how we’re feeling to know if we’re on the right path, which will be easier if we know that we’re being “watched”.
How we react to different situations is part of our movie so, controlling our emotions is key; we can’t hide from life and we need to be prepared for whatever comes, as part of our day to day. Keeping the storyline interesting is another priority, as is deciding what emotions we want to experience in our lives, are we a thriller, a drama, a comedy or a love story?
Like with anything this awareness is an acquired ability and it takes practice. I’m positive and happy by nature but I often listen to inspirational videos in the background when I’m working on my computer to help keep my spirits up and my mind open. I loved taking a “Mastering your Emotions” course here in Marbella with Masha Malka to help clarify new goals and keep myself inspired so that each day I will be the best version of myself and have the best day of my life. Even the most positive people tend to forget that our life is finite, that living for the future is like living in the past, futile and often upsetting or disconcerting and always a waste of time. The present is our gift and far more important than the ones we hope to find under the Christmas tree. The present is our opportunity to make each moment of our lives magical, regardless of the world around us; our happiness literally depends on it.
Becoming aware of what we want and focusing only on what we do want and can control are determining factors. In the hope of sharing this “wisdom” I gave my whole family a big sheet of coloured paper, scissors and glue this Christmas and brought a load of magazines and, as I had done with Masha and the girls the week before, we all sat down together on the floor, in what my daughter feared was another of mummy’s “arts and crafts” afternoons, to create our visions for 2019. I think everyone was pleasantly surprised at how much fun it was and how helpful it was to prioritise what most matters to each of us and actually look at it in full colour. The best part for me was that for a few hours no one checked their social media and we were all engrossed in something together, just like when my kids were tiny; literally the best present ever!