About men without shame
March 12th, 2008María Jesús, Laura, María Victoria and Vilma were their names. They were four ordinary women from four different localities throughout Spain who became inextricably linked last week through the scourge of domestic violence, within a 24-hour period.
María Jesús, the mother of four children fathered by her future assassin, was gunned down as she walked on the streets of Valladolid. There were three shots and the 54-year-old fell in her tracks. Evidently, her crime was to pass her ex-husband’s home on the way to visit former neighbours, people with whom she had a long and close relationship during the many years she lived in the area before her marriage came to an end. It was in the arms of these people that María Jesús drew her last breath.
Laura M.I. was a 22-year-old Bolivian immigrant living in the Madrid neighbourhood of Lavapiés with her 29-year-old boyfriend, also from Bolivia. On Sunday, February 24, neighbours heard another loud fight; however, it was not until Monday night that her boyfriend confessed her murder to 112. Apparently she was murdered 12 hours earlier.
The next tragedy took place in El Puerto de Santa María, Cadiz. María Victoria, 49 years old, shared three grown-up children with her ex-husband. María Victoria encountered her ex on the street as she made a few purchases. A loud argument ensued and he stabbed her in the middle of the street in broad daylight. Oddly, the accused murderer had recently denounced his ex-wife for uttering threats against him and the attending judge had issued a restraining order on her. Evidently, he will now sleep safely.
Finally, 44-year-old Vilma sat enjoying a coffee with some friends when her ex-boyfriend, 54, calmly approached her and fired a shot from a handgun into her chest. They had two children together and after the break-up of the relationship, Vilma had a restraining order against him.
Four different women from four distinct regions of Spain, all linked by the ongoing wave of domestic violence that poisons everyday life. Despite campaigns to raise awareness of the problem and despite specific money being earmarked to confront what is nothing less than a national tragedy, the numbers of women murdered and maimed at the hands of their ex-lovers continues to grow.
But why? Why are there so many blatant murders committed which seem to decry these women as property, to be disposed of any way these animals see fit? They were all daughters and sisters, aunts and, perhaps most importantly, many were mothers. One’s mind boggles when considering the damage that occurs to the children of such tragedies, no matter what their age. To have one parent murder the other is, in effect, a double homicide because the children lose both parents in one fell swoop.
One has to also wonder, is this something ‘Spanish’? Is it an extension of the macho cult which glorifies tradition and solid social roles? A female friend said to me recently that decades ago, when you saw a Spanish woman crying in public, it was assumed that she had just been struck by her man, such treatment being so common.
But a quick examination of statistics on the federal website, Instituto de la Mujer (Woman’s Institute www.mtas.es/mujer) demonstrates contrary findings. Without pretending to be a statistical whiz (that work should be left to professionals) some surprises immediately come to the forefront.
One interesting set of statistics deals with the origin of the murderers. In 1999, for example, of the 45 men with known nationalities who murdered their partners, only four were foreigners. By 2007, when 71 such murders took place, 27 of them were committed by foreigners, representing 38% of the total. For the first two months of 2008 (the Institute keeps extremely up-to-date records) of the eight such aggressors, six were non-Spanish.
Therefore, we need to ask if enough is being done to fight this problem within the foreign communities. Many here are dislocated, rudderless, without language or any real support network. Evidently, violence against women is not a ‘Spanish’ problem and it needs to be fought with all the energy we put into the many other wars in which the western world has become involved. The time has come. This abuse needs to be discussed, debated and, in time, defeated.
Enough is enough.
Once again, some food for thought …
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